Here are the thoughtful words that coincide with the audio meditations from Deepak’s 21 day meditation challenge on relationships…. I so have to buy these audio meditations for my later use!
The practice of Mindful contemplation is beautifully refined daily attunement, that allows one the access to the wisdom inside of your being. The innate wisdom that resides in each and every one of your trillions of cells is infinite and powerful beyond measure. I even heard it put once, that the energy in all of your cells equals 37 atomic bombs…. Holy smokes that is a lot!…. So how else can you harness that energy?
- Electrical Perfection= Chiropractic Care
- High Vibrational Foods
- Restful Sleep
- Movement & Sweat Combined
- Positive Thoughts
- Loving Companions
Perfect stillness allows you to see the reflection of your soul in the mirror. Try to find a quite place each and every day & dedicate at least 15 minuets to finding the wisdom that resides inside of you.
“The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart.” —Buddha
Welcome to our 21-Day Meditation Challenge, Miraculous Relationships! We are delighted and honored that you are joining us on this journey of the heart.
Miracles happen every day, and not just in remote villages or holy sites across the globe, but right here, in our own lives. If our minds are preoccupied or we’re too busy or rushed, we may not notice the miracles coming into our life, yet they are always there, like gifts waiting to be opened. Over the course of this meditation challenge, we will learn how to live each day connected to the peace of present-moment awareness. In this expanded state of awareness, we will be able to tune into the presence of miracles and see with the eyes of love.
Set one intention for your journey toward miraculous relationships. As if carefully cultivating a seed to sprout, take time each day to remember and connect with this special intention. Visualize it as a precious jewel resting in your heart. Gently shower it with love and light and, with your mind’s eye, watch it open and expand. As you travel through these next 21 days, give yourself permission to open your mind, and your heart, to all possibilities. Embrace the vision of your true self in supportive, meaningful relationships of all kinds.
“The one you are looking for is the one who is looking.” —Francis of Assisi
Today we will consider the one thing that is required for any relationship to flourish: knowing who we really are. While there is a natural tendency to find an identity in our roles in life, our personality, our work, our body, our culture, our stories of the past, and our dreams for the future, in reality, these are all temporary, external aspects of ourselves. Who we really are is eternal and unbounded. Our true self is pure love and pure spirit.
While our ego-mind may feel isolated and separate, our essential nature is whole and inextricably connected to the universe. Therefore, our journey towards miraculous relationships isn’t about searching for anything outside of ourselves: It’s about discovering that love is already within us, and expressing it in all of our relationships.
Schedule several “soul breaks” for yourself today. Start these breaks by taking a deep breath. Feel your body and notice any tension you are holding. Take another deep breath and as you exhale, let it all go. Take a moment to reflect on the tone of your recent inner dialogue, the quality of your interactions with others, and the emotions you have been experiencing along the way. Just observe what is. This exercise can be done in one or two minutes and is one way to strengthen your alignment with your true self, or soul. Your true self is infinite love and always feels safe and connected. Taking “soul breaks” each day naturally shifts your awareness of your divine, radiant nature.
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” —Thich Nhat Hanh
Yesterday we began to explore the difference between our true self, which is the source of all our love and happiness, and our learned self or ego, which is the source of our fear and suffering. Although the ego has a difficult reputation, our intention isn’t to judge it or attempt to get rid of it because such efforts only intensify the drama of the ego and the struggle in our lives. Instead, we want to focus on embracing all aspects of our self, letting the healing that comes with self-acceptance work miracles in our lives.
Today we will begin to let go of self-judgment as we experience the wholeness and truth of our essential nature. We will open our hearts to ourselves and let ourselves feel the love that has been there all along.
Begin today by putting your attention on your heart. Take time to connect with and feel how much your soul wants you to know that you are loved and appreciated. Look into your own eyes and see your timelessness. See everything—the joy, sadness, compassion, playfulness, and wisdom. You contain everything. You are whole. Each time you find yourself in front of a mirror today take a moment to witness yourself. As you look deeply into your own eyes, hold all aspects of yourself in loving awareness, silently repeat these words three times, “I see you, I accept you, I love you.” Carry this practice through your day and witness your heart gently open to yourself and others.
“Our bodies are our gardens to which our wills are gardeners.” —William Shakespeare
Today you’re invited to relax into the infinite space of your heart and let yourself receive.
Many of us were taught that it is better to give than to receive. We easily give our time, energy, and attention to our family and friends, yet we may find it difficult to receive these same things. In reality, giving and receiving are different aspects of the same flow of energy in the universe. Just as every exhalation depends upon an inhalation, the flow of love in our lives depends upon our ability to receive and to care for ourselves. As we meditate today, hold yourself in loving awareness and let your heart receive.
Today, begin a practice of daily self-care. Begin by making a list of the loving things you can do for yourself this week—then set the intention to complete one of the items on your list every day. Consider posting the list somewhere prominent or maybe schedule a daily reminder on your phone or computer. Here are a few suggestions: write down one quality you love about yourself, remember to pause and take a few deep breaths when you’re feeling stressed, take a walk or enjoy a good meal with a friend rather than grabbing a sandwich at your desk. As you give freely to yourself you’ll experience the loving awareness that is your natural state.
“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson
Today we have a new opportunity to cleanse the lens of perception and see ourselves as we really are: completely loved and completely lovable.
Despite what you may have been conditioned to believe, there is nothing that you have to do or achieve to be worthy of love. Your true self is pure love and you are already infinitely precious exactly as you are. This awareness of who you really are connects you to your true self-esteem. This esteem is solid and unwavering. Your soul loves you unconditionally. The approval rating of your ego, in contrast, is fickle and forever shifting. Your ego may approve of your performance one day and then the next day judge you as inadequate or lacking. As we shift from identifying with our ego’s insecurities and fears, we open to the gifts of the soul. It all begins with self-awareness. Each day as we spend time in the inner quiet of meditation, our awareness will expand and awaken us to love.
Make it your practice for today to cultivate self-awareness and self-love. No matter how much you have suffered, your soul sees you as whole. When you feel out of balance, anxious, or alone, pause for a moment and take a deep breath. In the quiet moment of a pause you can assess the gentle refuge of your heart. Take a few moments to close your eyes and sit quietly, feeling your heart as a soft, warm enclosure. Let your attention settle there and rest as long as you wish.
“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are. ” —Joseph Campbell
Today’s message and meditation celebrate the magnificence of your radiant, joyful spirit. If you could see your body as a physicist can see it, you would observe atoms or particles moving at lightning speed around vast, empty spaces. These particles aren’t material objects at all. They are fluctuations of energy and information in a huge empty space. And what is this space? It is the womb of creation, the field of all possibilities. It is the same place that nature goes to fashion a galaxy and to fashion a thought.
This field of pure potentiality is within you. It is your inner space that gives rise with amazing fertility to all of the divine qualities of the universe, including love, grace, abundance, joy, creativity, and freedom. You are a unique expression of everything in existence, and you shine with the beauty of a million stars.
There is a beautiful saying in India’s ancient Vedic tradition: “If you want to recreate the world, look at it with fresh eyes.” Today have the intention to see one thing as if for the first time. Look without the camouflage of your memories. Sometimes the hardest thing is to truly see someone we have known for a long time, such as our partner, child, or friend. We assume we know who they are, and so we stop seeing. It is also important to look at yourself as though doing so for the first time. We may assume that we know ourselves, but as we are discovering, who we are is much more than our limited ego-mind can envision. Through the eyes of your true self, take a few moments to consider how truly magnificent you really are.
“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” —Anaïs Nin
Congratulations on completing our first week together! In the past few days we have discovered and experienced the infinite love and possibility that is part of our essential nature. We have seen through the disguises of our ego or self-image, uncovering the radiant beauty and joy of our true, eternal self.
In today’s meditation we will delight in the gifts of spirit. On this special guided journey, we invite you to listen to the wisdom of your heart and let your experience unfold with ease and grace.
As we prepare for today’s meditation, take a few slow, gentle breaths. Breath is the movement of spirit in its subtlest physical expression. As you breathe slowly and gently, the body relaxes, the mind finds its still point, and the stage is set for inspiration—the flowing in of spirit.
“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” —Louise L. Hay
This week we will continue our journey of miraculous relationships by expanding our experience of love, equanimity, joy, compassion, and other divine qualities of spirit. Today our meditation will focus on choosing to be the presence of love.
Many people think of love as an emotion that comes and goes. In one moment we feel intense love and in the next we feel nothing at all. We may then become consumed by doubts about our relationships or we get caught up in an anxious search for love, striving to attract someone who will finally give us the love and approval we’ve longed for. As we’ve explored, love isn’t a capricious emotion but a state of being. It is an experience of unity with all creation. In every moment we can choose to be the presence of love and let that love guide all our words and actions. This choice will transform all of your relationships, including the one with yourself.
An essential part of learning to love yourself is to focus on being fully present and accepting of your current experience. Today take time to become more conscious of what your emotions are and how they feel in your body. Just be with your feelings with the awareness that whatever you are feeling is okay exactly as it is. This supportive gesture is like hugging and holding yourself in a loving and nurturing embrace—a practice that helps you metabolize your present experiences, promotes healing of old emotional pain, cultivates trust in yourself, and strengthens your ability to give yourself compassion and kindness.
“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.” -Hafiz
Today our meditation focuses on the light within each of us. In many wisdom traditions, light represents spiritual awareness. It is a state of consciousness that illuminates darkness and allows us to see with the eyes of love and wisdom. As our awareness expands, what once seemed to be obstacles are now clearly opportunities. When we reach a state of pure awareness, we realize that there are no problems and therefore no need for solutions.
In our relationships, the expanding light of awareness allows us to share more love, compassion, laughter, and joy with everyone in our lives. As clarity dawns, we become light-hearted and stop taking ourselves so seriously. We let go of struggle and live in the flow of life.
To cultivate the light of awareness, pay attention to the clues and evidence that miracles are unfolding in your life. Notice the unexpected opportunities that come your way, the flash of insight, a sudden feeling of peace or joy, a chance meeting, or a spontaneous creative experience. You may want to keep a list of daily miracles in your journal. Whatever we pay attention to expands in our experience, so as you focus your attention on miracles you will begin to notice more grace, happiness, and love.
“You must be the change that you wish to see in the world.” —Mahatma Gandhi
The secret of attraction is remarkably simple. It can be summarized in a single line from the Latin poet Ovid: “To be loved, be lovable.” A lovable person is natural and authentic, radiating the light of awareness and love that we explored in yesterday’s meditation. The second “secret” is one we have already discussed at length: You are already lovable. There is nothing you have to do make yourself more lovable or attractive other than to let go of any unloving thoughts that you have about yourself. That which you seek you already are.
In today’s meditation we will put our attention on the divine qualities that are closest to our heart and that we wish to attract in our relationships—including love, peace, trust, compassion, joy, passion, inspiration, thoughtfulness, and generosity.
The spiritual Law of Giving and Receiving teaches us that in order to attract or receive something in our lives, we need to give it freely and without expectation. If we want to experience more love, we need to be lavish in our own expression of love. To receive acceptance, we need to be open and accept others. Today choose one quality that you want to expand in your experience and find as many opportunities as you can to share that same quality with others.
“Wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.” —Khalil Gibran
Today in our meditation we will experience one of the most luscious qualities of spirit: the fullness of gratitude.
When our attention is focused on the blessings in our lives, we feel connected to everything in the universe. We experience our wholeness and oneness with all creation. When our heart is filled with gratitude, we arrive fully in the present moment, letting go of our regrets about the past and concerns for the future. In this state of pure appreciation, we radiate the light of love to everyone we meet.
Today make a list of five people who have had a profound impact on your life. Choose one person and write a thank-you letter expressing gratitude for all the gifts you’ve received from him or her. If possible, deliver your gratitude letter in person—or mail it. Often the people in our lives have no idea how much help, comfort, and inspiration they have given us, and this is a wonderful opportunity to share the love in our hearts.
“Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another.” —Albert Einstein
Today in our meditation we will explore our essential energetic nature. At the deepest level, we are all powerful energetic beings. We inherently possess the ability to shift the world around us with our presence and how we project ourselves. When we walk into a room, our energetic state of being is communicated before we say a word. If we’re coming from love, everyone feels it. And if we’re feeling resentful, edgy, sad or preoccupied, everyone can feel that, too. Silently, our energy speaks and our thoughts, feelings and intentions ripple out into the world.
Our capacity to affect others with our energy is both a gift and a responsibility. Ultimately, we have the power to choose how we show up and interact in this world. When we choose to come from compassion, peace, and unity, we become a powerful force for good and open the door to deep and rich relationships.
Today, pay attention to your energetic state. Take time to focus your awareness on how your state of being may be affecting other people. If you notice that you’re feeling prickly, irritable, or otherwise out of sorts, take a few moments to breathe deeply into your heart, sending yourself love and compassion. Acknowledge your distress without judging it, and notice how your energy shifts. Each time you pause, assess, reframe, and choose love, you are truly leading your life toward your destiny. You are opening to your infinite potential.
“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” —Ram Dass
Today, as we continue on the journey toward creating miraculous relationships, we explore one of the richest gifts we have to offer others: our undivided attention. In the enlightening stillness of meditation, we will focus on the many gifts available through listening with our ears, heart, and soul.
Consider for a moment the last time you truly felt heard. What a gift it is when another person is truly present, hearing our words as well as receiving all the unspoken messages we send through our energy, body, and nonverbal communication. Listening is a form of mindful attention that brings us fully into the present moment, where miracles can unfold in our relationships and in every area of our lives.
Set the intention to have at least one conversation today in which you truly listen with your heart and soul. Give yourself permission to pause your busy inner dialogue. Listen to the words being spoken and make the choice to listen beyond the words to receive the full spirit and potential of the message. With fresh and attentive eyes and ears, witness the miracle of the person before you, seeing them through the eyes of your heart. With this practice you invite true connection, infinite possibility, and abundant love into your life and relationships.
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.” —Dalai Lama
Congratulations on completing two weeks of our challenge! By taking time each day in the inner quiet of meditation, you are cultivating the space for your relationships to flourish.
Today our meditation focuses on seeing with eyes of love. While each of us appears to be a separate individual, we are all inextricably connected at the soul level. We are all expressions of the infinite field of pure potentiality, also known as spirit, God, the universe, source, or whatever name most resonates with you. When we relate to each other from the level of ego or personality, it is easy to get caught up in the struggle for control and approval and the need to be right. But when we relate to each other from the soul level, we experience the expansion of love, joy, compassion, and harmony.
Today send everyone you encounter a silent blessing. You may want to silently repeat the greeting of namasté: the spirit in me honors the spirit in you. Consider dedicating today to living the true spirit of namasté—giving yourself permission to internally bow to each and every person that crosses your path as you witness, honor and acknowledge the divine spirit that they are.
“We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are.” —The Talmud
Today in our meditation we will explore the mirror of relationship. This is the idea that all of our relationships are a reflection of ourselves. The people we are attracted to are those who have traits that we have, only more so. We enjoy their company because we subconsciously feel that being with them will help us to cultivate and manifest those traits even more in our own lives. In the same way, we are repelled by people who reflect back to us traits that that are difficult to face in our own selves.
The mirror of relationship is a valuable tool that we can use to see ourselves more clearly and to expand our awareness. As we become willing to embrace the light and shadow that we all possess, we bring love and healing to ourselves and our relationships.
Pay attention to the lessons that you can learn from others today. Observe your reactions to the many people who cross your path. When you can see that everyone in the world is simply sharing your own consciousness, you will lose the need to judge others and open to greater understanding and love. With each encounter you have, observe carefully and repeat these words silently to yourself, “In you I see me, in me I see you.” Feel the compassion in your heart open and witness how the way you see the world begins to change.
“The world changes when we change. The world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.” —Marianne Williamson
When we meditate on a regular basis, we develop what is known as “witnessing awareness”—the ability to calmly and objectively observe a situation, acknowledge when we are being triggered, and consciously choose how we want to respond. Instead of feeling stuck in knee-jerk reactions and conditioned patterns of behavior, we free ourselves to make choices that will help us fulfill our deepest desires for love, fulfillment, and happiness.
In today’s meditation we will deepen our experience of witnessing awareness as we practice staying present with our emotions. So often there is a tendency to judge certain feelings as “negative” or “wrong.” We may resist feeling these emotions but this only increases our pain. Every emotion has a valuable message for us, and as we allow ourselves to feel and hold each emotion in loving awareness, our relationship with our self and with everyone in our lives will become more authentic and whole.
Today set the intention to consult your heart before you act on any emotion. Your heart is a reliable guide that helps you experience empathy, compassion, and love. The heart is the seat of emotional intelligence, and it allows you to get in touch with your true self. It nurtures all of your relationships by reminding you to see yourself in the other. See through the eye of your heart and you open the doorway to manifesting the life and relationships you most desire.
“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” —Mother Teresa
In the yogic tradition, our ability to communicate with clarity and compassion is governed by an energy center, or chakra, located in the area of our throat. When the energy in our throat chakra is flowing freely, we’re able to express our truth without worrying about being judged or misunderstood. We’re also able to listen with our heart, truly hearing the messages other people are sending us. When the energy of our throat chakra is congested, however, we may feel anxious about how other people will react to our views and we are likely to censor ourselves. We may also find it difficult to listen with an open heart and an open mind.
Today in our meditation together we will focus our attention on expanding the flow of energy in our throat chakra, holding the intention to communicate with clarity, compassion, and honesty.
Today we invite you to try a conscious communication practice rooted in the Buddhist tradition. Before you speak, ask yourself these four questions: Is what I’m about to say kind? It is true? Is it necessary? Does it improve upon the silence? If you can answer yes to all four questions, then your words will resonate with authenticity and love. Consider posting these four questions somewhere you will see them each day, maybe adding them to the wallpaper on your phone. Each carefully delivered communication will provide you with abundant blessings.
“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one. ” —Eleanor Roosevelt
In today’s meditation we will reflect on the beautiful truth that we are already whole. We were created by universal intelligence as a complete expression of love, wisdom, and happiness. If we feel like something is missing, it is because we are seeing through the eyes of our ego-mind, which has a limited perspective of our infinite, divine nature.
With the realization that we already have everything we need and desire, we give up the exhausting search to find that person or situation or achievement to make us feel whole. We stop waiting for someone to complete us and open to the love that is right here, right now, in our own heart. And, from that boundless well of spirit, we are free to share the deepest experience of love with the people in our lives.
Begin to write your own love story today by treating yourself as the most precious being in the universe. Throughout the day, ask yourself, What is the most loving thing I could do for myself right now? What is the most loving way I could treat myself? Listen to the response of your heart and follow its guidance.
“It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is.” —Hermann Hesse
Today, our meditation is dedicated to sacred love and the experience of union in our relationships. As we have explored, love and spirit are the same force. At the core of every being there is only love, because the core of every being is only spirit. The two are the same—an abstract, unifying force that is all pervasive.
When we awaken to our essential loving, spiritual nature, we let go of old fears and defenses and connect with others in love. As we recognize the spirit in everyone we meet, we feel a deeper sense of peace, acceptance, and compassion. Our perspective shifts from “I” to “we,” and in this space of expanded awareness, miracles unfold.
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.” —Confucius
Today our meditation and discussion focus on the gifts of forgiveness. If we want to experience loving, life-long relationships, we need to be able to let go of grievances, hostility, and anger. These feelings keep us mired in the past and weighed down with emotional pain. Ultimately, forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves. It is an act of grace that restores the memory of wholeness.
It’s important to remember that forgiving is different from condoning an action that created pain for us or for others. Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries and are an important part of loving and honoring ourselves and each other. We can practice forgiveness even when we have chosen to discontinue a relationship due to unacceptable behavior. Sometimes we have to forgive someone many times before we finally let go of all the emotional residue of the past. Once we take steps to restore peace in our heart, we will feel a shift. We will feel lighter as we expand our capacity for love, compassion, and healing.
Is there someone in your life that you have not forgiven? In many cases, the person we most need to forgive is ourselves. Today have the intention to practice forgiveness. Encourage even the slightest hints of forgiveness, release, and compassion. If feelings of hurt and anger arise, tell yourself, I am willing to see this situation with love. I am willing to let go. Be gentle and patient with yourself as you hold the intention to heal and forgive.
“The miracle comes quietly into the mind that stops an instant and is still.” —A Course in Miracles
Congratulations! Today is the final day of our 21-Day Meditation Challenge and we honor your spirit and commitment to deepening your experience of love and happiness in your relationships.
By spending time each day in reflection and meditation, you have made a shift from fear to love, from ego to spirit, and from separation to unity. Perhaps you have let go of old grievances and pain and touched into the sweetness of forgiveness and gratitude. While this meditation challenge is coming to an end, the evolution of your consciousness is infinite. You have planted the seeds of intention for miraculous relationships in the fertile field of all possibilities, where they will continue to bloom and flourish in the days, months, and years to come.
In our meditation today, we will join together in celebrating the love that is already here in each one of us.
Continue to focus your attention on the presence of miracles in your life, sustaining the practice of writing in your journal about the grace, gratitude, and love that is ever flowing in abundance when we see with the eyes of spirit. Dedicate today to being in the spirit of miraculous relationships. Let your true self ripple out and bless the world with your unique and special signature vibration of love and light. Choose love. Be love. Give love—now and always.
“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” —Mother Teresa
Welcome to the bonus day of our 21-Day Meditation Challenge. Today we offer a special guided meditation dedicated to expanding the experience of love, peace, and well-being for all beings everywhere.
At the deepest level, we are all energetic, spiritual beings, inextricably connected to everyone and everything. As we focus our attention on the expansion of love, compassion, and equanimity, the light of our awareness will radiate out into the universe, elevating the collective consciousness of the world.
Today as you enter the stillness and silence of meditation, hold the intention that everyone in the world is experiencing love, wholeness, and peace in their heart. Visualize each person on our planet receiving your loving intention. Connect with and trust your inner knowing that as you send healing thoughts to yourself and others, that vibration travels out into the world and makes a difference. Know today that you have a vital role in the collective experience of our people, that you can change the world one meditation, one loving moment at a time.